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5 Steps to Keep the Romance Alive

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Is the romance in your relationship as vibrant as it once was?  If it isn’t, there is nothing wrong with your relationship! It is normal for that passion to dissipate as the relationship matures.  Now before you get depressed thinking you will never again have passion or you need a new relationship to have it again, keep reading. Creating passion takes work.  If you are a hopeless romantic and think that sounds cold, give me just a second before you stop reading. You might have attraction at first sight, but real love something quite different.  You see real love takes pursuit. You have to act to start love and keep it alive. 

When I began dating my wife, I pursued her.  I took her to restaurants (and paid btw), wrote her notes, and just talked for hours about life and our dreams.  These actions stirred passion and took time and planning. So what do you do when that passion or spark isn’t there and you want it back?

 

1. Have Fun

Go do something fun you both enjoy.  Go to a place where you can laugh and have some light hearted conversation.  Do try to win if it is competitive. Look for ways to flirt. Oh some flirting advice… the way you like to be flirted with is NOT how they like to be flirted with.  So guys lets flirt on her terms. Laughter is so important in keeping passion alive. So let loose and have fun. 

 

2. Quality Time

Dinner and a movie can really put a lid on your conversation. The real conversations are often hard for people to have when there are tables and listening ears around. If you talk at the movie everyone around you hates you.  I like to think intimacy is like it sounds: “in to me see.” Passion over time is linked to sharing your dreams, pains, feelings, and hopes. It is some of the deepest parts of who we are and the only way for that to be shared is making space for quality time.

 

3. Communicate What You Want

Romance looks different for everyone.  Your special someone is not a mind reader.  They need you to share with them what romance looks like to you.  Just because they can’t read your mind does not mean they don’t “get you.”  And no, just because you can’t read their mind doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. When your special someone tries and misses that is NOT your moment to tell them. Be grateful you have someone who is trying to pursue you. So let your someone know what makes you tick. 

 

4. Keep “Pursuit” Alive

Pursuit takes time and planning. Your special someone feels valued by your time.  I know I put a lot of time and passion into Vibrant. My wife feels greatly valued when I choose the restaurant and plan the date.  She likes it when I randomly dance with her inside of a store or our kitchen. She likes it when I call her in the middle of the day just to check in on how she is doing.  It lets her know, though I am working hard, I am still thinking about her. Pursuit takes intentionality and consistent pursuit will keep romance alive.

 

5. Budget for Romance

I know this doesn’t sound sexy. There are so many things in our lives looking for our hard earned money.  To have a three day get away, go to the nice restaurant, or even to just date regularly, it will take investment.  If you make a million dollars this year and lose the relationship, you didn’t win. Every month we put money in an envelope so we can regularly date.  Put money in for someone to watch the kids. Dating does not have to be expensive, but it will cost you something and it is worth investing in. 

 

I hope this helps you keep the romance alive or put a new spark in it. Today do something even if it feels small to pursue. If you would like to hear more about how to have healthy relationships. Starting September 15th, we will begin a new teaching series called #RelationshipGoals.  We would love to help you navigate healthy dating and marriage. Relationships are hard, so let’s set some goals together. 

 

Live a Better Story

 

Brandon Sereg

Lead Pastor 

@brandonsereg

@yourvibrantchurch

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3 Keys to Fighting Fair

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Have you ever been in a fight with that special someone and it seems to only get worse?  I am a pastor who has been married for 14 years and we still have those moments. It doesn’t matter if you just started dating or you have been married for decades, we do not always think the same thoughts, feel the same feelings, or share the same beliefs. First of all, fighting is not bad! Passion is good and we should fight for deep convictions. So when conflict happens, because it will, there are some keys to fighting fair.  So I hope this helps you…

 

1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is large and incredibly patient.  Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. 5 Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. 6 Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. 7 Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as a defeat, for it never gives up.

 

3 Keys to Fighting Fair

 

1. Don’t Fight to “Win”

Whenever we are looking to win, we are looking for someone else to lose.  In relationships, you can win an argument and still lose. If one person ends up on top by putting down or belittling the other person, everyone loses.  It is easy to disagree and want the other person to think like you do, but often times they won’t.  

 

Fighting to win is a mindset you get into before the fight. I know I can have conversations in my head before the fight so I can anticipate her response.  What is crazy is at times I will get mad at her for things she said in the fight in my head that she never said. So when the fight actually happens I have set myself up to “win.” So many times I have “won” the argument and wounded the person I love.  In the moment it might feel like winning, but the hours and days to follow show nobody won. So here is an alternative: 

 

2. Fight “For” not “Against”

Fight for unity.  First, unity is not uniformity. Uniformity is you think, believe, and agree on everything.  That is not realistic, and if you want your special someone to think, believe, and agree with you all the time, they might as well be you. You didn’t want to date or marry you.  You wanted someone who broadened the way you look at the world, and not just someone who sees everything the same as you. 

 

Unity is much different.  Unity is we agree on a destination.  If you have kids you both want them to be great adults that thrive, but you might disagree on how to get there.  Unity in destination removes the need to be right and try to win, because you are not fighting for you but a common destination.  So try starting the conversation in fighting for unity in destination and then talk about the how.

 

3. Look First to Understand

This is where real love comes in.  Love does not prefer self first but others. A major key to fighting fair is to understand the other person.  In my marriage, we have this phrase “What I hear you say is…” then I put in my own words what I thought she said.  Then I listen to her reply. Most of the time, what I heard is not what she said. Then she tries to say it again. We do this until I say back what she said.  It is only then she feels heard. Then I give my opinion only after she is understood. Another piece of this is sometimes even though I understand what she said, I might not agree. That is okay.  We might not ever agree on every “how to get to the destination,” but uniformity is not the goal. It is okay when they think, feel and believe differently. Respect is letting that be. You can go back and forth often without it getting out of hand when you respect them enough to not be you. 

 

I hope this was helpful and you can take steps toward fighting fair.  Remember, when you don’t fight fair or they fight fair remember: no one is perfect.  We have to show grace and forgive. That is just part of relationship. 

 

If you would like to hear more about how to have healthy relationships.  Starting September 15th we will begin a new teaching series called #RelationshipGoals.  We would love to help you navigate healthy dating and marriage. Relationships are hard, so let’s set some goals together. 

 

Live a Better Story

 

Brandon Sereg

Lead Pastor 

@brandonsereg

@yourvibrantchurch

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Six Fun Date Ideas In Broward

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Have you ever gone to plan a date night and been fresh out of ideas?  We would love to help! We came up with six fun ideas for you. We hope these would be fun for you and your special someone!

 

1. Escape Room

If you have never done an escape room before, they can be loads of fun!  You usually have one hour to complete a series of challenges that lead to you escaping the room.  It is like a massive puzzle. Everyone in the room must work together to complete the challenge. Though the goal is to escape the room, the real goal lies in having fun together! Here are a couple options:

https://lockboxescaperoom.com/

https://americasescapegame.com/sawgrass-mills/

 

2. Couples Spa Day

So many of us live busy and often stressful lives.  What if you and your spouse got a 60 minute couples massage together to just relax and talk together?  Some great options are available on the Groupon app for under $100. This might just be a great way to pamper you and your special someone a bit and say thank you for all you do.

 

3. Mai-Kai Polynesian Dinner Show

This could be a great change of pace for the couple that loves entertainment.  It is a blast from the past with food from an award-winning restaurant. Here you can just have fun and have some light conversation over great food and entertainment.  Groupon also has a coupon for less than $50 for a couple including your food!

www.maikai.com/

 

4. Hollywood Beach

Evenings are finally starting to cool off and every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday night at 7 there is live music with many different varieties.  As you walk the boardwalk, you can enjoy the wide variety of shops and restaurants while the live music provides outstanding background music. You can also sneak away on the beach to converse on a deeper, more personal level. 

 

5. Mini Golf

Mini Golf is another fun competition idea. The game is slow paced enough where you can talk while you play.  Remember it is not about winning, but laughing and having fun. This is not an opportunity to destroy your special someone because you are good on the green.  No one likes to be destroyed. So if you are good at golf, you might try to intentionally miss a shot or two. Make sure you celebrate them along the way!

https://monsterminigolf.com/locations/coral-springs/

http://www.broward.org/Parks/Pages/park.aspx?park=5

 

6. Reverse Dinner Date

A Reverse Dinner Date is my favorite idea. This is one you can do at home on a budget. Start by getting the house ready.  Do something to make it special. Get flowers, Christmas lights, candles, and maybe their favorite movie. The idea is this: Start with a great dessert, then dinner (keep it light and put some thought into it), and finish with an appetizer. This one you can do for not much money at all, but the time and thought goes a long way.

 

I hope this is helpful and you try some fun date ideas. I received a ton of help making this list from friends and family. Starting September 15th we will begin a new teaching series called #RelationshipGoals.  We would love to help you navigate healthy dating and marriage. Relationships are hard, so let’s set some goals together. 

 

Live a Better Story

 

Brandon Sereg

Lead Pastor 

@brandonsereg

@yourvibrantchurch

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4 Family Fun Activities to Wrap up Your Summer

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Summer is coming to a close, and we are all racing to get that last bit of family fun in before the kids go back to school. There is so much to do in South Florida whether you are new to the area, or you are from the area, there are plenty of options. Check out these four ways you can have a blast with your family before school starts!

MIAMI SEAQUARIUM

Enjoy amazing mammal shows, see world class sea life exhibits, and learn about wildlife rescue and marine animal care. They offer several different animal encounters, group discounts, and more! Prices range between $30-$150 for Florida Residents. Check out different packages here: https://www.miamiseaquarium.com/

OPERATION CITY QUEST

Operation City Quest sends players on real-life scavenger hunts. The goal: to find notable objects in your city, and document the process along the way. The entire game is played via smartphone! You can earn points along the way, but the most important objective is to have fun. Quests begin at $14. Check out more at: https://www.operationcityquest.com/

EVERGLADES SAFARI PARK

Although this one might be better as the weather cools off, you can still get a great look at the Everglades from a fun airboat ride, and even hold a baby alligator! Explore natures River of Grass on an Eco-Adventure tour or a small private airboat. All tours include world famous airboat rides, alligator wildlife show, and walking trail with exhibits. Main Airboat Attraction is $15 per child over 5, and $28 per adult for a public tour. Private Tours are also available. Check it out here: http://www.evergladessafaripark.com/

HOLLYWOOD BEACH

If you are looking for a fun afternoon or evening, don’t miss Hollywood Beach! You can stroll down the Broadwalk, take in the beach, or rent a bike/trike and take a ride. There are plenty of food options that range from Pizza to sit down dining, and don’t forget to grab some ice cream to top of your day! Check out all they have to offer here: https://www.hollywoodfl.org/1049/Hollywood-Beach

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4 Coffee Shops in Broward You have to Try

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Over the past few years my love for coffee and more specifically coffee shops has grown immensely. Maybe it’s because I associate the smell of coffee with productivity or great conversation, or even new beginnings, perhaps it’s that coffee has become a constant for me, linking childhood memories to the present, or maybe it’s the idea of exploring new countries through different flavors.

Whatever the reason, I have dedicated a lot of time to unveil the hidden gems of my local community and there are four that continuously stand out.

1. The Alchemist.

        This bohemian-inspired coffee shop, specifically their location in Wilton Manors, has been tucked away in a luscious tranquil garden, making it feel like a mini tropical getaway.

Known for their laboratory themed workstation, you’ll see a slew of flasks and beakers containing various coffees and teas, while a barista, otherwise known as a “coffee scientist,” concocts your order. Their specialty is their Alchemist Iced Coffee, a brew made in house served with coffee ice cubes to ensure a well-caffeinated experience.

2. Wells Coffee Co.

        Although a recent discovery, it has quickly claimed a spot at the top of my list. Surrounded by murals, in the heart of Flagler Village, I’m not surprised at how many creatives flow in and out in a single day. With the words “drink deeply” encouraging you to not only enjoy one of their house-blends but to stop and take in the moment, this coffee shop has quickly gained the respect of many.

3. BREW Urban Cafe

        The one with a wall lined floor-to-ceiling with books. An airstream, indoors, featuring local art for sale, and mismatched vintage furniture; BREW has all the trappings of a hipster-approved coffee shop. As one of my most frequently visited spots and having watched a good portion of the show Friends, I would consider it to be my Central Perk, a warm and cozy place to gather, unlike the average cold and metallic shops on every other street corner.

4. Roasting Buddies

        Acting as the only local roaster in West Pembroke Pines, you can bet this location has caught the attention of many. Homey, in all the best ways, with seating from couches to long conference-like tables, and a menu ranging from an ever-so-perfected pour over to their “crazy shakes,” this family-friendly environment is just what the community has been waiting for.

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5 Steps to Hear God’s Voice

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Prayer is so much better when it is two directional! But how do you know what is God and what is just you? So many people ask how to hear God’s voice and how to know if it is really Him. I want to encourage you that God wants you to hear His voice more than you do!

John 10:27 My own sheep will hear my voice and I know each one, and they will follow me.

5 Steps to Hear God’s Voice

1. Adjust Your Pace

A mentor of mine told me “God is not in a hurry.” We live very busy lives and God wants us to slow down. You will never read Jesus doing anything more than a walking pace. Jesus slowed His pace to make sure He kept relationship with His Father strong. One of the key reasons many Christians don’t hear God is their pace. Slow your mind, slow your role, and wait on God.

2. Get in Silence

Jesus often snuck away from the crowd to be alone with His Father in prayer. He knew as a many He leaked. The only way for Him to get filled up was to get alone with His good Father. The same is true for us. It is when we separate from the busyness and worries that can consume us, then we are open to hear His voice.

3. Listen More than You Speak

Have you ever sat down with someone and they did all the talking? Imagine sitting down with Abraham Lincoln and you only had 30 minutes. How much do you really want to spend talking? God is the creator of the universe and the inventor of you! The richest time in prayer is in the listening and hearing.

4. Get in Scripture

God is not only speaking now but He has spoken! I read through the Bible every year and every day God shows me new things I had never seen or understood. So much of His plan and heart for your life has been written for thousands of years. I would recommend reading Psalms and the book of John.

5. Obey

Often God is looking for us to obey what He has already spoken. Imagine a basketball player who wants to perfect a half court shot but can’t make a layup. God has a journey planned for you and there is a step 1 and step 100. You cannot take step 100 until you obey step 1. Obeying God is about trusting Him that the journey that is often dimly lit is a good and leads to life.

I hope you take these steps and pray God opens your ears to hear His voice in your life!

Live a Better Story,
Pastor Brandon

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